As with any conversation one might have with a friend, two-way is the only way. Speak and listen. One of the most sure-fire ways of listening to God is to read His Word, which I believe to be the Bible. When I read it I have insight into who God is and what He wants me to know. From there I ask questions….sometimes complain that I do not understand, or stop and ponder about the relevance of a particular verse to my life. From this place, God often speaks directly to my heart.
As far as literal prayer, in Matthew 6:9–13, Jesus laid that out for us exactly.
“Pray, then, in this way:
‘Our Father who is in heaven,
Hallowed be Your name.
10 ‘Your kingdom come.
Your will be done,
On earth as it is in heaven.
11 ‘Give us this day [e]our daily bread.
12 ‘And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.
13 ‘And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from [f]evil. [g][For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.’].
This is such a brilliant prayer! It starts off by acknowledging who God is and praising Him rather than jumping right into asking for our own desires to be fulfilled. It further acknowledges that we accept God’s will even if it appears to conflict with our own. That can be difficult for most folks, but it is important to say it and mean it because it goes a long way toward equipping us for life’s challenges. When it comes to asking, Jesus’ model prayer states that we should ask only for enough for the day, not heaps of stuff to be stored up on earth where moth and rust will destroy. God shows us what He thinks of that when the Israelites hoarded manna. See Exodus 16. Greed is a terrible thing and is to be avoided at all costs if we wish to live life the way God intends.
Next and critically important is to ask God to forgive us because no one can make it through a day without doing something that is contrary to God. Equally important is to forgive others because His word is clear, He will not forgive us UNLESS we also forgive others. That can be a tough one…which is why we need to ask for help on a daily basis…sometimes hourly in my experience!
And finally, we pray that God will protect us from temptation, keeping us safe from the fiery darts of the enemy who loves nothing better than to see us become greedy, lustful, covetous and every other sin that we humans have a propensity to get tangled up in even without the temptations thrown at us by the enemy. This is where “putting on the armor of God” comes in handy. See Ephesians 6:10–18
Jesus’ model prayer closes similarly to how He opens it, by acknowledging that God’s is the kingdom and power and giving Him the glory forever. Who can top that?